'Porn often shows women rubbing themselves so frantically they look like they’re trying to start a campfire in their coochies.'Īs sex educator Alix Fox - a script consultant on Netflix's Sex Education - puts it to me, 'Porn often shows women rubbing themselves so frantically they look like they’re trying to start a campfire in their coochies.' In March, during a London-held 100 Women I Know panel discussion about sex and power, Africa Brooke - founder of The Cherry Revolution, a movement aiming to 'break societal norms surrounding women, identity and sexuality' - talked about being cognisant that the arched-back masturbation pose we see in porn isn't always what works for people - and that sometimes hunching over is better.

A global survey of over 10,000 people by sex toy company Tenga found just 14 percent of British women learned about sexual pleasure during sex ed at school, and 17 percent of women learned about masturbation. Given that many British women received little or no information about female self-pleasuring during sex ed lessons, many of us have been left to fill in our knowledge gaps with porn. I must admit, it hadn't occurred to me that the way I masturbate might have been influenced by the porn I was privy to growing up. What might seem hot in a male fantasy - which informs much of the porn we watch - isn't always close to what actually gets women off. Women masturbate with legs splayed and backs arched, orgasming after a few minutes of frantic rubbing and moaning.īut in reality, those positions aren't necessarily the most conducive to pleasure for women. When not reading or promoting books, she is homeschooling her two daughters, dressing up in cosplay and historical dress, dreaming of her future farm, and caring for her ‘little zoo’ that includes two dogs, two guinea pigs, a bearded dragon, two daughters, and her husband.Porn isn't exactly famed for its realism. Malissa’s passion for books has led her on one of the most favorite adventures of her life: traveling, fangirling, volunteering/working at book events, blogging, and supporting authors. After a lifetime as a military dependent, she is now looking forward to her husband’s eventual retirement from the Service and one day settling into her forever home surrounded by books, Highland coos, and rescue dogs. Life as a military spouse has given her a passion for being of service to others. Malissa grew up as an Air Force ‘Brat’ and married into the Army. Her love of stories of all kinds was instilled in her at a young age through her beloved grandfather, Da’s example and encouragement. Malissa is a graduate of Troy State University with a degree in history. You can follow her on Twitter and Instagram COY -Events Coordinator She lives in Arizona with her husband, 2 children, and their puppy, Eloise. When Kelly isn’t reading, found on social media, or crafting digital graphics, she enjoys spending time with her family, working on puzzles, traveling, and watching baseball. Combining her love of books with art, Kelly specializes in graphic design, helping authors by creating unique graphics tailored to their needs. Having a creative mind at an early age, she’s had her artwork published in literary magazines, which led her to pursue her education at Dakota State University, majoring in art/art history. After years of reading murder mysteries, she picked up her first romance novel in 2006 and fell in love with the genre.Īlong with books, Kelly’s other great passion is art. Kelly has been a lover of books since her teens, borrowing her mother’s fiction novels as often as possible. Kelly Emery -Publicist & Graphic Designer

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